Question: How Do You Talk to Your Prickly Teen?

October 1, 2012

Answering One Parent’s Question and Introducing the 10 Minute Talk I love this parent’s use of the word PRICKLY! It perfectly describes the demeanor teen girls often show parents but not the rest of the world. The teen years are a great time for parents to make friends with being together without necessarily communicating verbally. […]

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Pacific Collegiate School Parent Education Forum

September 28, 2012

I had a great time presenting this week at the Pacific Collegiate School in Santa Cruz. Although I’ve presented at their parent education forums in years past, this talk on conflict, communication, and connection with teens was the most fun for me. Instead of a lecture-first format, I mixed it up this year by basing the presentation […]

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Preview of “Parenting a Teen Girl”

September 24, 2012

Lucie’s first book, Parenting a Teen Girl, is divided into 10 chapters, each addressing a key topic area. Here’s a chapter-by-chapter outline of the book with a sample of what you can expect from start to finish: Chapter 1 – Talking Trash About Teens: A Reality Check Pessimism is exchanged for optimism and parents receive a […]

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Helping Your Teen With Eating and Body Image

September 17, 2012

A Guest Post By Andrea Wachter, LMFT As an eating disorders counselor and author, I have spent decades working with clients of all ages who are struggling with their food and weight. My experience comes not only from my schooling and my counseling practice, but from the trenches. I too, spent decades hating my body, dieting […]

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Radio Appearance: Relationships 2.0 with Michelle Skeen

September 15, 2012

On September 4th, I was fortunate enough to be invited to be on fellow New Harbinger author, Michelle Skeen‘s radio show: Relationships 2.0 It was great to be able to sit down and talk with a fellow Psychologist who is also the mom of a teen girl. Just in case you missed it, you can […]

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How Does Praise Really Affect Kids?

August 20, 2012

It is a firmly held belief that self-esteem is a very good thing to have. As parents, we want to raise our kids to have plenty of self-esteem to help them move into their lives with confidence and competence. What do we rely on as our go-to fertilizer for self-esteem? Praise! For many of us, […]

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Parental Self-Control with Teen Girls

July 31, 2012

Don’t you wish someone prepared you for the level of self-control required to parent your teen daughter? While with little girls, we have a wide margin for doing things OUR way, teen girls tend to have strict ideas about how parents can and can’t behave. In many ways, of course, we disregard their wishes and […]

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Sneak Teaching Teens

June 25, 2012

Remember the old days when you could teach and guide your child without triggering a volatile response? It’s not as easy to get our points across once our kids hit the teen years and, while frustrating, their resistance is absolutely normal. In my second blog for Psychology Today, I write about teaching teen girls to […]

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Celebrating The Mother of All Relationships

May 13, 2012

Deborah Tannen, author of You’re Wearing That? refers to the mother daughter relationship as “the mother of all relationships”. At it’s best, it offers comfort and security. At it’s worst, self-doubt and chaotic emotional disruption. Moms of teen girls often share that they want to feel closer to their daughters but feel pushed away or […]

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Walking On The Wild Side

April 26, 2012

Supporting Safe Decision Making Risky behavior has been around since we were teenagers and long before. While certain fads in risk taking come and go, the foundational trio of temptations remains sex, drugs, and alcohol. Throw driving in with any of the three and you get even more risk and higher parental anxiety. There are […]

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